Blog Drive Low...Need to Blog

My life has become extremely busy; to the point that I've abandoned my blog :(. Well instead of thinking about wanting to blog, I'm forcing myself to do it.

I am currently working 4 jobs and have one huge research paper to get on. When I'm not working, sleeping or eating I can be found staring at a computer screen job hunting like a mad woman. My evening tomorrow will be spent in my Memorial Union office writing coverletters and imagining if I fit the short paragraph description for certain positions.

I recently started working in the capitol for a Democratic representative, Andy Jorgensen, as an intern. The position is unpaid but shaping up to be a great opportunity to get some writing experience and zap me back into the political scene.

Well I'm off to work. It feels good to be back in touch with my blog. This blog helps me to continue being "me focused."

"Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man"

I'm sure you've wondered what men think about love, relationships, intimacy and commitment. I have, and was recently given a highly recommended book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like A Man" by Steve Harvey from my dear mother. She encouraged me to read it so that I could better understand the MEN in my life. I took her advice and I'd love to share some insight with you about the opposite sex we ladies can't seem to understand or live without!

I first need to say and admit that men are simple and women are complicated. All they need is support, love and sex. So keep this in mind as you read the insight I received from the book.

Men show love differently than women. They aren't as mushy, emotional, romantic, complimentary, passionate, nurturing or hoping for a scene out of "The Notebook" or "P.S. I love you;" like we are. In reality a man shows his love in three ways by Professing, Providing and Protecting. If he isn't doing these three things for you, then he definitely isn't thinking long term and you should drop him! If a man wants to be yours, he's willing to tell anybody and everybody about you (profess). Once a man has professed or claimed you he will want to make sure you are cared for (provide). "Society has told us men for millennium that our primary function is to make sure our families are set- whether we're alive or dead (25)." Thirdly he will stand by you and will do his best to make sure nothing bad happens to you (protect).

A man has to have three things accomplished before he can be the man you need or want in your life. Until a man has accomplished these things or is at least on the track to accomplishing them he won't be able to adequately fulfill your needs of attention and satisfaction. Majority of his attention will be going to focus in upon himself, not you or the future of your relationship...that will drive you nuts.

Men at a young age are primed to pursue "manhood." They are constantly in pursuit of becoming a man. As a man matures he needs to accomplish knowing "who he is, what he does and how much he makes." Until then he will not be able to be the complete package a woman wants or needs in her life because he hasn't yet accomplished the foundation for what his whole life has been made to focus upon.

So the take away from this book is to understand that you won't be able to get the kind of relationship a woman feels she deserves with a man until that man has reached his level of "manhood" by his own definition. So ladies don't waste your time trying to change men who are trying to work on attaining their "manhood." It will only cause you to be frustrated and dissatisfied. Let the man develop on his own and in the mean time go find a man who is ready to have a good woman in his life, because that is what you need and want.

Reject Me and Strengthen Me

3 pointless e-mails and two rejection letters from Kerry and Environment America...how much more rejection can a girl take? So I didn't get either job, I also didn't get two others. I'm feeling a little salty and disappointed but I know that I did all that I could to have received employment. I'm not taking these rejections as a personal set back, if anything it's a step forward because I'm learning the lesson of rejection. I'm going to accept that I didn't get the job and continue the job hunt game. I know the skills and qualifications I have to offer a company and I will find employment.

My biggest fear right now is that I won't have a job in my chosen field after graduation. With 39 days until graduation and 39 days left of insurance, I'm starting to feel a little pressure upon my shoulders. How can I enjoy my graduation when I don't have a job lined up afterward in which I can apply my education to?

So I guess it's more cover letters and resumes being placed out there. Otherwise time to be an entrepreneur and start my own agency. Maybe recruit other J-schoolers who are having difficulty finding a career and start our own business. It might just work and we might be able to finagle some free P.R.

So when rejection comes in your life, learn from it and realize you've learned an important lesson. Not everything is going to go the way you plan it or hope for, but what's great about rejection is that when you're not rejected you have a greater appreciation. That can be applied to all things in life and it can also be used in an interview as a good example of something not going your way :).

There is Always a Flipside

There are always pros and cons to living the single life or living the relationship life. After a short conversation with a sophomore classmate today, I concluded to myself that if I could do my undergraduate years over again I would have been single and dated more. And that was the exact advice I gave her.

Don't get me wrong, I'm very content being in a relationship again, but there are just somethings people need to experience and get out of their systems while they are young. Below you will find the pros and cons to both lifestyles. Unfortunately you can't have both, but it's very good to have experienced both. Because like many say, "You have to experience the sour, to appreciate the sweet."

SINGLE LIFESTYLE

Cons:

1. Being the third or fifth wheel when hanging out with your pals gets really old fast

2. Love movies make you feel like a complete failure in life

3. Masturbation can only get you through for so long

4. The only potential mates you come to find are already in relationships or married

5. Awkward bad dates

6. People who just don't understand that you're just not that into them and then having to make up weird excuses as to why you don't want to hangout

Pros:

1. Drunken make-out sessions with bar hotties are always fun

2. You don't have to buy groceries for a week because if you schedule three dates with three people-the leftovers of steak, seafood and that exotic Ty restaurant will get you through

3. You're not responsible for someone else's feelings and emotions

4. You can flirt and flaunt yourself around town

5. If you are a woman all drinks are free when going out to bar

6. An unknown incoming phone call brings delight and mystery

7. Dating can be lots of fun

8. Through dating you learn what you want and don't want in a partner

RELATIONSHIP LIFESTYLE

Cons:

1. When you're taken everyone you ever wanted wants you, but you can't do anything about it

2. You have to be responsible for someone else's feeling and emotions

3. Arguments over things you just don't quite understand

4. Your partner doesn't try as hard to make you feel special or to look good for you

Pros:

1. Foreplay and sex are accessible, and can be taken to new levels

2. Snuggle sessions and sleepovers

3. You have someone you can confide in about everything

4. The feeling of not being alone

5. The feeling of being in love

6. Being able to place your guard down and just be yourself

7. Your family doesn't think you are gay anymore